Her Success is NOT your Failure
Her Success is Not Your Failure
If you’re measuring your success to someone else’s success, you’ve already failed friend. I know, because I’ve been there. Who am I kidding? I still struggle with comparing myself to others! I thought once I was out of high school and college, it would get easier. Whomp, whomp, whomp. Truth is, I don’t think the temptation to compare yourself to others ever goes away. It’s one way that Satan has really perfected his craft and knows how to get into our minds.
You might struggle with comparing your appearance to someone else’s, your talents to someone else’s, your mom skills to someone else, or maybe you’re like me and find yourself comparing the success of your business to someone else’s. Whatever your struggle is, I want you to know that her success is NOT your failure! I believe that, and I want you to believe it too!
5 Ways to Stop Measuring Your Success Against Someone Else's
1. Limit your time on social media
Have you ever noticed that people only share the good things on social media? Rarely does anyone every share a picture of what they look like when they first wake up in the morning. You don’t see very many status posts talking about how a small business owner is struggling to get product sales and make ends meet. You don’t scroll through instagram and see pictures of how awful someone is at hand lettering. And, you likely will not see very many posts about the mom silently crying in the bathroom because she’s stressed and struggling to balance the role of mom, wife, keeper of the home, friend, and business woman. You don’t see these types of posts, not because it’s not reality, but because no one likes to brag about their perceived “failures.” We want to be perceived as successful.
Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, and Pinterest are NOT reality. Let’s you and I both commit to limiting our time on social media. In 2019, let’s stop wasting so much time comparing ourselves to others, and instead be present in the moment and enjoy the day that Lord has given us. Deal?
2. Celebrate other people’s successes
There are going to be people all around us who are successful, and that’s okay! Someone may get that promotion you wanted. Someone may be better at something than you. Someone may have more money or something that you really want. But you know what? Just because someone else succeeds doesn’t mean you haven’t or won’t!
There’s a reason the Bible talks so much about jealousy. Be honest. When has something good ever come out of being jealous? It ruins marriages, friendships, happiness, self-esteem, etc. It’s not healthy, period. So, instead of being jealous, let’s choose to be happy for each other and celebrate each other’s successes! It may not always be easy, but I know we will be much happier!
3. Count your blessings!
Develop a spirit of thankfulness by counting your blessings every day and praising God for them. Truth is, regardless of the number of successes and failures we have, we are blessed beyond measure. If you’re taking the time to count your blessings and be genuinely thankful, you won’t have the time or feel the need to compare and be jealous!
4. Stop competing and work together
We all have strengths and weakness. So instead of working against each other, why not combine our strengths and work together? I have met several amazing biz ladies. A few I have become very close friends with. Let me tell you, these friendships have been such an encouragement and blessing! There’s nothing like having someone by your side cheering you on and helping you when you need it. It’s not always a competition. My friends and I, we want the same things. We want to have a successful business, but more importantly we want to use our business to serve you and spread God’s love. Why would I not want to help them achieve this goal!?
5. Measure your success against what matters most, your relationship with God.
Are you growing spiritually? Are you reading your Bible more? Are you praying more? Are you serving others? If so, then you, my friend, are more successful than ever imaginable and in the best way possible! You can have all the money, friends, fame, and things, but if you’re not right with God, you’ve missed it all. You’ve failed.
God has a plan for you and for me. His plan for you looks different than His plan for me, and that’s okay. “Her success is not your failure.” Repeat it. Write it down. Hang it where you can see it. Believe it!